As a person who has dedicated much of her life to fighting for equality and social justice, I knew that the journey is not without its obstacles. Over the years, I’ve messed up more than once. My mistakes have taught me that my biases can fool me and that I must never stop examining and reexamining my own privilege. Putting yourself out there as an ally is a vulnerable position because you invite accusations of hypocrisy. I’ve been called out on many occasions and had to defend myself or apologize. Even though it is work, I welcome the opportunity for personal growth, a precursor to societal transformation, toward an end to oppression.
When I first started my work as a doula, my goal was to serve all families without discrimination or judgment. Despite my best intentions, I had to be honest with myself that I lacked the experience and training to feel confident in serving LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender) families. Since then, I have taken these steps:
1.) Inclusivity. I re-wrote my intake forms so that instead of asking information on the baby’s “mom” and “dad,” I now have space for information on up to four parents. This allows families to define their own roles, separate from gender, as well as include information on biological and adoptive parents.
2.) Continuing education. I found a wonderful resource in The National LGBT Health Education Center. Their on-demand webinars taught me so much about health disparities, pathways to parenting and ways to be more welcoming in my practice.
3.) Visibility. I have a listing on the resource directory, Trans Birth, “created to connect Trans* and gender non-conforming people and their families to midwives, OB/GYNs, and doulas who provide welcoming care to our communities.”
This is just a start. In the coming year, I plan to create a local resource list of welcoming providers in my community. Do you provide welcoming healthcare services in West Michigan or have a favorite resource you’d like to share? Please contact me!